You Want to Offer Yourself.

You Just Don’t Want to Disappear.

For submissives, service-oriented partners, and those who feel devotion in their bones.

The Voluntary Offering

A 10-page ritual guide for those who want to serve without guilt, debt, or self-erasure.

THE QUIET TRUTH

You feel the pull toward devotion.
Not because someone demanded it.
Not because you owe it.
But because something in you wants to give.
And just beneath that desire, there is caution.
What if I disappear?
What if I give too much?
What if wanting to serve means something is wrong with me?
Nothing is wrong with you.
You are not weak.
You are not naïve.
You are discerning.
And discernment is the foundation of clean service.

WHAT THIS GUIDE DOES

The Voluntary Offering is a short, solo ritual designed to help you answer one question honestly:

Am I offering myself because I want to?

• or because I feel I should?

Inside this guide, you will:

• Clarify whether your desire to serve is voluntary

• Learn how to feel a true “yes” in your body

• Learn how to honor “no” without shame

• Separate devotion from obligation

• Restore service to sovereign choice

No performance.
No humiliation.
No surrender contracts.
Just clarity.

WHAT THIS IS (AND IS NOT)

This ritual is:

• Solo

• Quiet

• Non-performative

• Grounded in bodily truth

• Consent-centered

This ritual is not:

• A promise

• A loyalty test

• A contract

• A preparation for someone else’s expectations

You do not owe devotion.
You choose it.

And choice changes everything.

WHO THIS IS FOR

This guide is for you if:

• You feel called to serve but fear losing yourself

• You are service-oriented but value your autonomy

• You want devotion without debt

• You are kink-aware but unwilling to self-erase

• You believe surrender should be chosen, not assumed

If you have ever thought:
“I want to give… but I don’t want to disappear.”

This was written for you.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Service that begins in obligation eventually drains.
Service that begins in fear eventually collapses.
Service that begins in sovereign willingness becomes sustainable.
The body knows the difference.
This ritual helps you feel it.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Dankmor writes about erotic ritual, power exchange, and embodied devotion with an emphasis on consent, sovereignty, and nervous-system care.
His work focuses on chosen offering, ethical authority, and sustainable intensity.
He writes for practitioners who already know this path is real — and want to walk it cleanly
This ritual guide is adapted from his volume:The Offered Body: Erotic Service & Ritual Devotion

A FINAL NOTE

You do not need to prove your devotion.
You need to feel whether it is yours.

Download The Voluntary Offering and begin from choice.

Holding power instead of offering it?
There is a guide for that too.